#WarriorPoet: KEEPIN’ IT 100
I love women… Man oh man, I love women. I love the way they look, the way they laugh, the way they smile, even the way some of them smell. And because I love you, I gotta keep it 100 with you. Today’s post WILL BE… not might be but WILL BE offensive to some of you. The reason that it will be offensive is because ALL TRUTH IS CONFRONTATIONAL. Meaning, the truth hurts… So out of love and in truth I want to let you know:
-When you’ve smashed the homies, it takes points away from you in the “Potential Wifey” category; Whether you agree with it or not, Whether you think there’s a sexual double standard or not, the FACT is, most guys don’t want to know that their special lady’s special place was a special playground for another dude who he knows… Even worse a few dudes who he knows. Resist it all you want, Call it what you want, that’s just the way most guys think… And yes, we know that some women think this way too, we know so you don’t have to over state that in the comments below.
-When you are a “Baby Mama” OR have a child(ren) from a previous relationship, it takes points away from you in the “Potential Wifey” category; I can’t say that having a child and being a jumpoff (as mentioned earlier) are the same. They’re NOT! However, most guys don’t want to deal with the idea that taking you on in a relationship could potentially have some extra “stuff” with it. He may not want to have to deal with standing by while you argue with Baby Daddy. He may not want to have to deal with being in a “mentorship/advisory” role to your child yet the child’s father has conflicting views on life. He may not want to deal with the “built in” assumption by the Child’s Father that he still “owns” your special place… Even if he really doesn’t. And there are dozens of other things that a man may have to deal with (Either in real life or merely just within his ego) that could sway him from committing to you because you have a child from another dude… Or from other dudeZ.
-When you OVERpursue a dude, you’re most likely not going to win; Men are naturally hunters and aggressors. It adds to our manhood, or ego or bravado or whatever you want to call it when we can chase and then achieve. It’s very evident in the tears that flow year after year from the eyes of the toughest guy you know when holding his championship trophy up in the ear as champagne flies in the locker room. So… when we don’t have to chase yet the trophy is just handed to us, it takes away from the experience and it won’t mean as much. Conversely, when the trophy is ridiculously hard to achieve and almost impossible, it might turn us off so there has to be a balance. Don’t be surprised when a dude is not very engaged or isn’t really “coming at you” the way you’d like if you’re the one doing most of the initiation. 1- He sees no challenge and isn’t going to try to chase after a cow that’s giving him free milk or 2- He just doesn’t like (your) milk.
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And now back to our regularly scheduled program…
-When you want a man to be your boyfriend AND your father you’re most likely going to lose; Imagine seeing a new job posting and applying for the job. It fits what you’re looking for from job description to salary. You ace the interview and before long, you’re on the orientation in your new uniform and excited about the situation… Until you realize that you’re not only doing what was in the job description but they’re also DEMANDING (not asking) that you do 2 other jobs in which you have no experience. Changes the whole dynamic of the experience doesn’t it? Now granted, I know that there are droves of women out there who have no fathers and many of those who do have them, have jerks as fathers… I get it. So often times, you subconsciously come into a relationship with your new boyfriend with that void needing to be filled and demand that he fill it. But you have to be mindful of that. Pay attention to yourselves. 1- He didn’t sign up to be our dad. 2- He may not have had a dad nor a quality dad so he may not know how to fill that void for you even if he wanted to.
-When you’ve been married in the past it can take points away from you in the “Potential Wifey” category; I don’t have to tell you that marriage is a special thing. And since it’s a special thing that (believe it or not) is supposed to only happen once in your life time, some guys will want to know that they are the only one that you’ve shared that experience with.
-When you display your domestic/sanitary habits OUTSIDE OF YOUR HOME it can take points away from you in the “Potential Wifey” category; There are some guys who don’t know when their woman has her period unless she’s showing or telling that she has cramps. There are some guys who always know because his trash can is full of the evidence. There are some guys who don’t know if their woman has used the bathroom. There are some guys who always know because she leaves evidence. There are women who throw down in the kitchen and aside from the smell of the food and your full stomach, you wouldn’t know she cooked. Then there are some women who leave the evidence of their “trow down” sitting there for a nice amount of time. I can’t say that either of these approaches is better than the other but I do know that one of them, especially early in the relationship, has the potential to turn your potential man OFF.
I have no idea who these dudes are below but I ROX with them BOTH!! lol! The second dude down there gets a little weird and off-center at about the 2:12 mark but up until that point, he’s good bread!!
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